How To Get Better At Conversation
Do you find yourself nervous about having a conversation with someone new? This isn’t uncommon. We all have our group of friends that conversation comes so easy with, but how do you make things easy when you’re with a new group, at a conference, or just sitting next to someone on a plane? Take a look at these steps:
1. You’re nervous, but so are they – Realize that it’s not just you that is having to think about what to say. The other person wants to be liked just as much as you and may be very self-conscious throughout the duration of the conversation. If you take a little initiative to take the lead, things can get rolling much more smoothly.
2. Smile! – Do this and watch as the person you’re greeting returns the smile. You only get one first impression. Greet others with a smile and your approachability will go way up.
3. Make eye contact (but not too much) – Making eye contact with the person you’re speaking with lets them know that you are taking them seriously and engaged with what they have to say. Constantly looking away will give off the vibe that you want the conversation to end (and end quickly). On the flip side, make sure you’re not staring them down as this comes off as aggressive body language. Occasionally looking off briefly as you speak but coming back to their face should be sufficient to keep the aggressive looks to a minimum.
4. Laugh at their jokes – Assuming that they aren’t too crude or inappropriate, make an effort to laugh when you’re told a joke. Laughter helps to break down barriers that let individuals feel closer and can ease the difficulty of finding something to talk about.
5. Listen to what they’re saying – The quickest way to make someone feel unimportant is to fail to listen to them. Occasionally nodding as the conversation goes along is a good way to let them know you’re keeping up with the topic and have interest in their opinion. The most charismatic people are also the best listeners.
6. Drop the sarcasm – You may have mastered the language of sarcasm with your friends but this could easily come across the wrong way with someone you have never talked to before. Be genuine and have an engaging conversation without the need for misdirection and under-the-table jokes.
7. Be positive at the end – Make others remember you by ending your conversation on a good note. A smile or quick laugh is a great way to make others feel good about you as you end your conversation and will make them remember you more. They will be much more happy to chat with you the next time you meet.
